By: Rebbetzin Keturah
“The spirit of feminism has saturated home life and church life today causing both doctrinal and operational departure from God’s original design concerning home life (Gen. 3:16) and church life (1 Tim. 2:12) for a woman. The combination of a bitter heart, a bad attitude and a bossy wife or congregant can have severe or detrimental effects on a home and ministry. It’s time to bring the skeletons out of the closet and face them. Today both are suffering because of the bitterness, bad attitudes and bossy dominance of women. Many places suffer because of women who have a sour spirit and who cause division. Some 90% of [church problems] focus on women who do not know their place biblically. And when a woman doesn’t know her place she longs for the places of others- when she can not have it, she leaves.”
Ladies, a bitter spirit will ultimately translate into a bad attitude. Some do this in shul and they drift away from ministry and having any heart to do things for the Lord. A bad attitude makes you unusable in G-d’s work. It also makes you think that people are against you as you get paranoid and you are not able to hear G-d at all, only your voice. You yell at people and truly can not see balance because you are so far gone. If you maintain this kind of bad attitude, it will cause you to become out-of-sync spiritually and deaden your effectiveness for the Lord, eventually leading you out of shul and into the hands of the world.
And it all starts off from having a bad attitude. Since I have been here, I have seen this happen many times. I have seen people leave shul because they can’t stand someone else and even now I SEE some amongst us, a few who are slowly going down a backslide path. They used to come to shul and now they skip out, they used to praise the Lord on Shabbat- now they work on Shabbat. I see women leave early for personal reasons or boyfriends, making friends and forming cliques- not speaking to others who are not in your list…women who used to be humble and modest, now they look, act, smell and talk like the world…What is going on?
The heavy part is that some of us do not even want to be approached at it. So my question to anyone who feels that this may be you- Why are YOU STILL here? Why come to shul if you don’t want to be here in the first place? Why have bad attitudes with your spiritual leaders- is it because you know you are wrong and are in denial?
Shabbat is supposed to be about family, love for HaShem, resting and fellowship. It is not a social club and G-d doesn’t like when you pop in for a few minutes to say “Lord I’m here” and then leave. What’s the point of us worshiping Him when you do that? Do you even know your purpose and calling in life? If the answer is maybe, then maybe you should do some good old praying in your prayer closet and get your head and heart back on track for HaShem. I may sound harsh but its true, people may not say anything about it. Not to be religious, because we don’t want people just coming to shul every Shabbat like robots either just to please leadership. Shabbat is about growth and learning, gathering strength from others when we feel weak. HaShem does not play games and when He sees us doing these things on Shabbat, He does not forget. That new job you got, He may cause you to have flat tires and now you have to pay more money just to get to work because you disobey on Shabbat. That new boyfriend you have that wants you over in the afternoon on Shabbat- yep- G-d will allow him to cheat and break your heart. Rabbi Farber speaks about this all of the time, G-d gives what we put in. If you don’t put in, guess what? Don’t get mad at HaShem when you are stuck. Then we have the nerve to get bad attitudes towards our leaders, our friends and family and others at shul…No it doesn’t work that way. And while the majority of us here at CMY seem to be on the right path at shul, no one knows what any of us does at home.
However, when we have bad attitudes at shul, show signs of unforgiveness and on Shabbat do as we please- it is quite evident that our lives at home are not G-dly. Yeshua said that a tree is known by its fruit…what kind of fruit are you? Are you bearing good fruit? Are you bearing bad-molded fruit? We have to be very carefully because if our fruit is BAD, the tree will be cut off and thrown away. HaShem is a G-d of grace and mercy but He is not a fool to be taken advantage off. We need to be women of G-d, showing the world a great example. Let us be Proverbs 31 women of valor because if we don’t want to be, then should go home and stop playing shul. Sorry if this week was rough, but a diamond doesn’t shine unless its made from a harsh stone to the bright and brilliant strong thing that it becomes. So let’s be encouraged to walk the right path and not have a bad attitude and not play games with HaShem. Let us pray:
“HaShem forgive us of our sins, I am sorry that I put me first on the day that was ordained as yours. Teach me your ways and create in me a clean heart. Let me learn to love others and put my feelings aside as feelings will always lead us astray. Let me learn to trust leadership and other G-dly women around me to keep me on the straight and narrow path. Help me close my mind from the ways of the world and open my heart to your voice. In Yeshua’s name. Amen.”
-From The Isha Portal Fall 2013, CMY
Rebbetzin Keturah Malinconico is wife to Rabbi Yehezqel Malinconico of Congregation Melech Yisrael, Canada’s oldest Messianic Synagogue, which is located right within the heart of Jewish Toronto, ON. Rebbetzin Keturah is a blogger, graphics designer and photographer and loves a good plot. When she is not teaching the women at shul or taking photos, she enjoys crafting, DIY projects, knitting and crocheting or catching a good movie. Rebbetzin is also a part of the Messianic Times Community Bloggers. To read her blogs there, visit: www.messianictimes.com and to find out more about her home synagogue, Congregation Melech Yisrael, you can visit www.cmy.on.ca where we live stream every Erev Shabbat @ 7:30pm & Shabbat Mornings @11am.